Wednesday, November 18, 2009

What Does it MEAN to be a CHRISTIAN?

I like what this author had to say. My aunt Nancy sent it to me by email. A good caption of what being a true Christan means. It doesn't make us perfect or a saint and it doesn't mean that we won't ever suffer or feel pain, but it shows our dependence upon God and our true savior Jesus Christ. Next time someone asks you, what does it mean to be a Christian, you have an answer.

BEAUTIFUL CHRISTIAN SISTER
By Maya Angelou

'A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ
That a man should have to seek Him first to find her.'

When I say.... 'I am a Christian' I'm not shouting 'I'm clean living,'
I'm whispering 'I was lost, Now I'm found and forgiven.'

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I don't speak of this with pride.
I'm confessing that I stumble and need Christ to be my guide.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not trying to be strong.
I'm professing that I'm weak and need His strength to carry on.

When I say.. 'I am a Christian' I'm not bragging of success.
I'm admitting I have failed and need God to clean my mess.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I'm not claiming to be perfect,
My flaws are far too visible, but God believes I am worth it.

When I say... 'I am a Christian' I still feel the sting of pain...
I have my share of heartaches, so I call upon His name.

When I say..... 'I am a Christian' I'm not holier than thou,
I'm just a simple sinner Who received God's good grace, somehow!

Thank you Lord for these brilliant words and for Your mercy and grace and saving a wretch like me, I love you, in your name Jesus Christ, Amen.

Tonya

Wednesday, July 01, 2009

SPIRIT9 Small Group Starting Up - I encourage all of my family and friends to start or join one!!

I prayed a long time for a catchy name and the Lord more than answered my prayers, He made an amazingly catchy small group name that had soo many parables to life. The Small Group in general is one of the most important forms of discipleship and needed to be successful at all walks of life:

S.P.I.R.I.T. 9
Small Group

Spiritual,
Physical,
Intellectual,
Regular,
Interval,
Training

Nine S’s:

Saturday’s Sunsets to Seek, Serve, Share, Strengthen, and Salvage the Soul through the SPIRIT! The number 9 is an Upside Down 6.

Invite your friends and family!
Bring your tennis shoes and your Bible!
Be Authentic and bring your Questions!
Come to Workout your mind, body, and soul through the SPIRIT of CHRIST.

When: Every Saturday Night starting July 11, 2009 down at Buccaneer Beach at 6:30pm.

I love you and in Jesus Name, Amen.

Saturday, May 23, 2009

THE WILD INDIANS - I LOVE MY SIBLINGS



This is all SEVEN of my Mom's kids taken almost 20 years ago. I am the oldest at 18, down to my baby Sis, Yonna, who is graduating high school this year. The blonds are Paula and Janette, the boys are Randy and John David, and the poser, so cute, is Sarah, who has became the second to graduate college out of the group. Congrats to both you and Yonna, you gals ROCK!!

This is the last time all of us were together, which is really SAD!! I love you all and miss you. Thank you Lord for bringing us together that day, I pray everyday that ONE DAY the LORD will bring us all in the same room and in touch AGAIN, if it is in His Will and understand the reasons for times of separation.

Tonya

CHURCH PLANT LETTER

Dear Family and Friends, May 20, 2009

Hello to my family and friends again. I haven’t written in a while and a lot has happened out in sunny San Diego. Often new beginnings and dreams bring praise and prayers needed. I first want to congratulate my Baby Brother and his new wife Jean for an awesome blessing coming in the form of another child and to my Baby Sister for graduating High School next month in North Carolina, send me an announcement Sis. I love you BOTH so much, pray for you everyday, and hope the best for you and your extended families. I am currently still in my studio, where I have a small yard for Jezebel and a big Jacuzzi tub. Still officiating and umpiring and working for the Boys and Girls Club. I picked up a summer contract working with foreign exchange students from China and am finding that the current economy is making the process of finding host families a challenge. Your prayers are needed for good people and the gift of hospitality to come out in these families in the Oceanside and surrounding areas area for ten Chinese to have homes for two weeks this summer.

Still going to Generation church located in Oceanside for a little over two years now. The numbers are growing as more and more people begin to seek the Lord. Instead of getting all huge in numbers and a bigger building, Generation church is planting church’s all around the surrounding Oceanside area, which currently has 165, 000 people and growing, just north of San Diego. Of that 165,000, there are a lot of un-churched and brainwashed people. Most speak English and just need to be loved. A lot of them are bi-lingual speaking families. Being so close to the beach, we also have one of the highest homeless populations in the country, women and children, as well as grown men. So I am going to help with a church plant to reach these people in the North Oceanside area, where I live, to help make disciples for Jesus, just as he commanded us to do in one of my favorite books of the New Testament, Mathew, chapter 28, or simply The Great Commission.

I first thought, “What do I know about planting a church? I am no bible scholar!” Then, I heard the pastor preach from Judges Chapters 6-7, about the story of Gideon, which I had never read, since I tend to read the New Testament more. The story and sermon gave me confidence to step out in faith. He talked about being weak, being bold, and how these things will lead to overconfidence causing humility, where the Lord uses us best to glorify Him. This pastor inspired me to read the powerful story of Gideon, the Warrior, and I thought of the 23 PSALM by David.

I just want to thank the Lord for this wonderful opportunity to reach people for You and to truly gain victory for You, even when I am weak, You make me bold, even when I am overconfident, You make me humble, thank you, and in your name, Jesus Christ, amen. For it is when we are WEAK that HE is Strong as Paul plainly states in 2 Corinthians 12:7-12.

I am currently working with three new clients in my private tutoring business. A ninth grader, who lives down in San Diego, and we meet once a week. I also have two elementary students, a second grader and a fourth grader twice a week. I will be attending a referee clinic this summer to hopefully learn the 3-man mechanics. My association was trying to talk me into doing another camp, but we will see. I would like to see my sisters in Sacramento this summer, maybe we can meet again and go camping or something, email me. I want to see my Pops as well this summer, so keep in touch.

Continue to keep the church plant and me in your prayers, I love you all and we love you Lord, and I ask that You bless all those who read this letter and think about the Great Commission and where it takes place in their life Lord. My we all be disciples of Jesus and be BOLD for Christ, in his name. Please let me know of any needed prayers. God Bless you.

Tonya
www.flywithchrist.blogspot.com

Monday, February 16, 2009

TONYA'S NEXT LEVEL

Recently I decided to form a committee of people to help me get to the NEXT LEVEL. I want to begin to travel and referee the highest levels of college basketball. I am 37 years old and have been officiating for over 9 years now, seven of those at the high school level. I am single with no kids. I love high school basketball, I even coached for several years, but my passion is the college game. I am giving myself 2-5 years to get as many invites to various conferences and ultimately to the highest levels of college. There are so many college conferences looking for quality female officials who have good mechanics, solid decision making, and the “IT” factor. I am not just looking to get into the West Coast conferences, I am looking nationally. I am reestablishing my contacts back east and making new ones to help build the number of people that will see me referee.

I know there is still lot’s to learn, any good referee knows that there is always more to learn, therefore the committee being formed and certain steps need to be taken, I like how my pastor, Shawn puts it, when talking about Christianity, he said, “you make a decision and then you take ACTION!!” Thank you, Shawn for this analogy that I can make with my decision to referee college basketball and go for it. I am a person that needs to write things down and make a list of what needs to be accomplished. Otherwise, I get side tracked with life and forget things. It is optional to be on my committee, a lot of where you get is who you know, so the more support the better. If you are getting this letter, you are being asked by me to be on my committee. One of my colleagues from NCBOA asked, what is my job as part of this committee? Well, some of you have already been there for me as part of my committee in your general support as co-workers and friends when you tell me my mistakes and help me get better in basketball and life. You also have served as an inspiration telling me that I am a good official and a good person, and should consider this next step. Without people like you, I wouldn’t be here, and thank you.

I also wouldn’t be here if wasn’t for family and friends, who always love and show support for whatever I get into. I also want to of course thank our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ for my abilities and this opportunity. I would be remiss if I didn’t include in my committee both Him and my dog, as she will endure the grunt of my travels in the winter, Thanks Jezebel. Ed Rush(an NBA Official) has suggested being a BALANCED person and to not forget my faith, family, friends, and my teaching vocation, and in that order, before the avocation of refereeing basketball. Thanks Ed for that wonderful advice.

Once you join my committee, you will be asked to continue your support and I welcome any and all information that can help me, Tonya, get to the NEXT LEVEL. I will keep you informed of all camps, clinics, and let you know when I am scheduled to be on TV refereeing basketball, Woo Hoo, I am excited, I hope you are to. Thank you all and God Bless you.

Tonya

Please let me know through email or phone if you can serve on this committee and the next email will be my ACTION PLAN.


The Action Plan

• Form a committee for support

• Welcome criticism and ask many questions

• Evaluate myself each game and have some reflection time recorded in a journal, funny plays, questions that arise, could things been done differently, etc.

• Join more associations including the Pacific Coast Conference, a junior college association I have already been invited to, basically referee more basketball

• Attend online class held by Ed Rush(NBA Official)

• Become a mentee to anyone willing to give back

• Join the Instructional Committee and continue to give back to my main association, NCBOA

• Mentor younger and inexperienced officials

• Study and stay on top of the rules and mechanics, especially the difference between college and high school rules and mechanics.

• Continue to read my Referee Magazine, the entire Basketball section every month

Attend a South Atlantic Women’s Basketball Camp being held in North Carolina, April 17-19, which includes conferences such as ACC, Big South, Colonial Athletic(George Mason, my alma mater), and the Southern Conference. The camp is only $150, which doesn’t include a place to stay, airfare, or meals. Any of these conferences would be a dream to work in, and Southwest flies into Raleigh, DC, and Maryland, right where I have lots of family to visit.

Attend a camp being held at the University of Tennessee June 12-14, which includes conferences such as the Atlantic Sun, Ohio Valley, and a huge Georgia Junior College. This camp is expensive at $400, but it includes lodging and meals and it is about 7 hours from many family members out there, I might just get a rental car and meet you this summer. The camp fee would not include the airfare to get there. This is a dream camp, but I have a good feeling about this one and the possibility to meet Pat Summit is even better!! I talked to the camp coordinator and she says the Coach sometimes speaks at the camps. Those of you who don’t know who Pat Summit is, you are not a college basketball fan, google it!

Attend a camp locally in Orange County at Concordia University July 10-12, which includes the Big West, the huge NAIA, which includes divisions I and II, some Division III and junior college conferences, both on the West Coast. According to many people on NCBOA, it is the best camp to attend to be seen for the entire West Coast and possibly other states. The cost of the camp is $200. It is about an hour to an hour and half drive from where I live, so gas is the only other expense with this camp. I might even attend this camp with a local official, so we can share gas expenses.

• Be disciplined enough to save the money for these camps, which all come to about $750, ironically the amount and more that some of these conferences pay to officiate their games, so it is a good investment. Some of these conferences have camps and clinics for FREE and will even pay me travel stipends with assignments, once you begin to work for them on a yearly basis. So you can constantly learn and improve and not have to spend a $750 in future springs or summers. I am also realistically looking at about the same amount in additional expenses.

• Start looking at ways to save and or raise the amount needed to attend these camps. Most of these camps require money, some if not all by May 15, 2009. The spring camp will be sooner.

• Apply for scholarships from my home association, NCBOA. I know there are funds for our officials to attend camps, I just need to apply.

• Try and attend a camp with someone else to share gas and hotel expenses.

• Check with committee and do research for cheaper airfare, discounts, and people they might know to make the travel less expensive.

• Eat out less, drink less beer, no more Starbucks, stop impulse buying, make some sacrifices, and start stashing money away for my travel.

• Obtain place for my dog to stay or get someone stay and watch her at my studio apartment.

OBTAIN MORE INCOME: I’m going to umpire softball for MOA(high school level), continue working for the Boys & Girls Club, under 25 hours a week contract when the kids are in school, continue with my independent contractor duties tutoring and refereeing basketball. Possibly working for my uncle’s construction company doing construction and my aunt’s Real Estate office doing office work. If I travel, possibly working for my old associations in Virginia and Maryland, for AAU and high school tournaments. For instance, driving from the Tennessee camp June to Virginia, where my baby brother lives in 6 hours and working games while I am out there for more income.

Obtain a $500 loan as a valuable investment in ME!! Once I work my first two college games I can pay back the loan, plus 50% interest, which would be $750, which is one or two division I basketball games easily. If I am not invited to any conferences or meetings, or clinics to move up to the next level, then the loan could be paid back at the end of this July, when I will be obtaining a lucrative summer contract from Nacel Open Door(google it), where I will be teaching ESL and serve as a Coordinator of Programs that Host Foreign Students. A separate contract that is notarized can be drawn up for this loan.

Thursday, February 12, 2009

TWILIGHT - Edward is Gorgeous!!






I love the books and love these pics found online, aren't they both Gorgeous?

DRAMA





Here are some of the kids at the local Elementary. Thank you Lord for my job that keeps me alive and able to still do these fun things I enjoyed as a kid.

Pictures from my TRIP!!




Here is the future ROCK STAR in the family, my handsome nephew, Gabe. The picture above is my baby brother, John and his new wife, my new sister, Jean. Congrats to them on getting married this last summer. The pictures I took from Paula made me feel like I was there. God Bless you both and your new family. I love you!!

My January Letter...It's been AWHILE...I love you, this is Jezzy and Me at Christmas 2008.


Dear Family and Friends, January 15, 2009

I just wanted to write to my family and friends since the New Year has come upon us and it has been several months since the last letter. I just finished my favorite lunch or dinner of all time, a bean and cheese burrito with roll tacos from Las Panchos, a little Mexican dive here in Oceanside. I am sitting on a picnic table at a local park near my studio apartment with my dog, Jezebel. It is currently sunny and about 82 on a Thursday afternoon. This park is killer, it overlooks the ocean and a view of the mountains. I will post some pictures on the blog for your viewing. Jezebel and I come up here just about every day, to play ball, read, be lazy, and now write on my computer. I miss all of you dearly, especially the ones that I don’t see very often. I would love to hear from any or all of you. I wanted to send this letter to get you updated on how I am doing and it is my 2009 New Year’s resolution to keep better in touch with family and friends through letters, phone calls, and posting to the blog.

. I am still living and working in the city of Oceanside. I didn’t like the cold weather and rain we just had, but now the weather has returned to gorgeous, as always. We really are spoiled when it comes to weather out here. Thank you Lord, for my beautiful San Diego weather. If anyone is looking to move, the houses are going pretty cheap out here of late. Currently still working part time for the local Boys and Girls Club, where I have started programs such as a Drama Club, a Book Club, Club Strategy, HeyGirlHey and Uno Frenzy. My Dram Crew recently did a comical piece of “Rudolph” and we already have a production planned for the end of this month. The Book Club was inspired by my sister Paula, when she told me to read the “Twilight Series” by Stephanie Meyer. She and I were in our own little book club, talking about the Twilight books each week. So, I will be getting together with teens each week to discuss the books and other pieces of literature. My elementary kids will be reading the Chronicles of Narnia, which are written by a brilliant Christian Theologian named C.S. Lewis. Both are approved reading by today’s public schools. The Club Strategy was inspired by my love to play chess and the possibility to one day teach and tutor chess. I predict chess as being the next Texas Holdem!! I have been attending classes at Academic Chess, designing my own online chess curriculum, and playing lots of chess. Get your chess sets ready. I play online daily to improve my game, people from all over the world on chess.com, I am EnforcerT, if you ever want to challenge me online.

I am also still officiating high school basketball. I had many exciting holiday tournament games, which included teams from all over San Diego and out of state. I had a girl’s varsity game that the teams got up into the 80’s, and that’s a lot of points for a girl’s basketball game. Heck, 80 is a lot of points for a boy’s game as well. I was recently working a game in Mt. Carmel, where there were 400 people in the stands screaming for their teams, it went to overtime and what an adrenaline rush to be the one calling the game and have the best seat in the house. You must have the thickest of skin to be a referee and realize that you won’t make everyone happy. My experience and accolades in my officiating are bringing me opportunities to reach the college level as soon as next year. I have been invited to attend a Pacific Coast Conference officials meeting, which is a junior college division here in San Diego. This invite will require me to attend a camp this summer and begin to focus on improving my game for the next level. Thank you Lord for this wonderful opportunity to make a living doing something that brings me passion, adrenaline rushes, and exercise. Hopefully one year I will be telling you about my invite to Division 1 basketball, where I am currently seeing more and more women these days. We always have to have dreams, right?

I am getting ready to go back to the East Coast to visit my sister Paula, friends, and other family members. I leave next week and I am really excited to see everyone. I can barely recognize Paula’s kids on the phone now days, they are growing so fast. While out there, I can keep in touch with my clients I am currently tutoring online via the internet. My Mom and my sister Yonna might make the trip up from North Carolina, since they live there now and we can make a big family reunion of it. Thank you Lord for this opportunity, and thank you Paula for opening up your home for all of us.

Well, I have rambled enough, I didn’t want to write too much, since I sometimes can write novels. I hope this letter finds everyone happy and healthy. I hope this New Year brings you lots of love and growth that will allow you all to prosper. Don’t forget the bonds we all have with family and friends and the relationship we have with our savior, Jesus Christ. His relationship has the power to nourish, strengthen, and put out all the fires in all of our relationships. Thank you Lord for this opportunity to write to family and friends, thank you Lord for everyone who read this far, may you bless them, and I say this in your heavenly name, Jesus Christ, amen. I love you all and God Bless!!

Tonya

www.flywithchrist.blogspot.com

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PARK



Here are the the parks where Jezebel and I like to go. One is of course, the ocean, where there is a park, Jezzy chases the squirrels. The other, you can literally see the ocean and the mountains and it is right up the street from where I live in Oceanside.

Thursday, August 14, 2008

FLS CLASS

This was my amazingly smart class the Lord gave me for two weeks through FLS International just recently. I had 10 students for two weeks out at Mira Costa College this summer, teaching them ESL. They were all 17-19 and most of them spoke pretty good English. I got them to practice speaking, writing, and hearing English. Eight of them were from North Italy, one from China, and one from Belgium. They all loved Oceanside and all want to move and live here.It was an awesome experience, thank you Lord and thank you FLS for the wonderful opportunity that I will cherish forever.

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

This is where I live!!


This is Carlsbad beach, not far from where I live in Oceanside, your typical gorgeous day, the day after returning from Tahoe. This was early evening before a sunset in California.

I will be back!!


Tahoe is soo pretty!! It's breathtaking really.


This is all of us with OUR Pops!!


All FIVE of us together for the first time!

Brothers and Sisters, wow, I love you guys!! Tahoe was FUN!! I look forward to more trips.

Lake Tahoe Trip!

Dear Family and Friends, February 14, 2008

Happy Valentine’s Day to my family and friends on this fine Thursday morning as my students at the local high school take a World History test. I wanted to write everyone another letter that would let you know how I was doing and tell you about my recent trip to Lake Tahoe. As I reflect on the trip, I realize how truly blessed I am to be able to take time off of work and travel through the beautiful Sierra Mountains with family to see family. My brother’s wife Joanna flew out from North Carolina and the three of us drove up the large state of California to Reno, where we met our Pops, who flew in from Oklahoma. After some gambling and fun in Reno, the next day we drove to the gorgeous Lake Tahoe to meet our three sisters, who only live a few hours away in Sacramento. The whole trip was planned by Randy and I and for two of our sisters, the twins, and their birthday, which was the following Wednesday. Thank you Lord for the opportunity to spend time with family and for providing such a beautiful atmosphere for us to enjoy, you never cease to amaze me with the creations you create, in Jesus name, amen.
Some of the highlights of my trip: Driving through the Sierra Mountains, seeing the snow capped mountains in the distance at first and then eventually driving right up on them; Seeing Pops and my sisters again and being there when Randy met our three sisters for the first time; Seeing Randy ski for the first time, definitely a highlight; Turning $20 into $60 at a penny slot machine in Reno; Hearing Kristina call me Sis, wow, thanks Kristina, it meant a lot; Playing poker with Jennifer and Kristina and watching Jennifer take out Randy in both Texas Holdem tournaments, Randy usually can’t be beat, Go Jenn; Seeing the breathtaking views of Lake Tahoe in the winter; And for the last highlight of my trip, being able to be in 30 degree weather with lots of snow on the ground to 75 degree weather and on the beach within a day of each other, thank you Lord for the trip that included many highlights and will bring lasting memories.
Obviously I am still working for the local school district as a substitute along with my many other part time jobs. The tutoring business has been slow, but my other jobs, working for the Boys and Girls Club, officiating, and teaching traffic school have been keeping me busy. Since starting to teach traffic school, I have realized that I found my niche, I truly love teaching adults and they actually listen. The comedy part has been fun, showing that sarcasm and a sense of humor have never been a problem for me. My students evaluate me every class and they find me funny and amazing, go figure. I have had more than one student say it was the best traffic school class that they have ever attended, I think I deserve a raise.
The Boys and Girls Club has increased my workload putting me in charge of a new program called RealCare Parenting. With the program my students will receive a computerized Baby for a simulation period, so they can see what it is truly like to have a newborn baby that cries and needs to be fed, burped, changed, and loved. The program is a full course, taught by me, to our middle school students, which teaches about parenting and what to expect. I found this kind of ironic, being that I don’t have any kids myself, but I am the oldest of many siblings and I plan on putting myself through the four day Baby simulation period, to get my own taste. Of course my Mom is excited about having a computerized newborn around, which she could babysit, and I look forward to the experience.
I am excited about my upcoming trips, my baby brother will be getting married this summer in Virginia, and I wouldn’t miss it for the world. What an awesome opportunity to again see and spend time with family in both Virginia and Maryland. I am also planning on going to see my Pops again out at the Lake House we worked on this last summer. This summer will be all fun though, fishing, water skiing, and swimming in and on the lake in Canton, Oklahoma. Jezebel and I will meet you at the Lake Pops!!
Thanks to everyone who read this far, may the Lord bless those who enjoy my ramblings. Thank you Lord for my family and friends and for the opportunity to share my experiences through writing, may the joy of the Lord be our strength in both the good times and bad times. I say all of this in your heavenly precious name, Jesus Christ, amen. I am going to send this via email with pictures of Tahoe, since I have been so busy and because I am the worst procrastinator, sorry Pops. I love you all and God Bless.

Sincerely,

Tonya
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